HOW TO GET unavailable man to open up?

If you can't connect with your man on a

personal and emotional level, and you don't know

what he's thinking or where his head's at these

days, it doesn't have to be the "beginning of

the end" for your relationship. The REAL

reasons why men pull away when you try to talk

to them about something meaningful can be found

right here:

Are you looking to experience more love,

happiness and fulfillment in your love life?

Does there seem to be "something missing" from

the way you and a man interact that's either

keeping you from connecting on a deeper personal

and emotional level...

Or is he being RESISTANT when it comes to

getting closer with you?

Then you've got to read the real-life story

about a woman's failures, growth, and successes

with the "unavailable" man in her life.

She shares how she went from feeling frustrated

and confused to learning how to feel empowered and

confident... and describes exactly how she made

this change.

You can use the ideas and techniques that sheshares NOW to improve your love life First, let me ask you..What if you could find just one good real-worldidea that brought you close to that great guy thatfor some reason seems "unavailable" or withdrawsfrom you?Or what if you found a great way to turn yoursituation around and get back to that amazinglove-filled connection you used to have when youwere first together?How is that going to happen for you?Well, there's a few ways described in thisemail for you.If you read this reader's email, you're likelyto recognize and identify with what this woman hasgone through with men in the past... and what sheis dealing with right now.

And hearing about her experiences dealing with

men and relationships straight "from the horse's

mouth" can help you put the things she's used to

improve her love life to use in your own.You're also likely to simply FEEL BETTER about

where things are for you after you read what'sgoing on for this woman.PLUS, I'll share what I see as the "deeperpsychological process behind her increasedsuccess, her new feeling of well-being and her neattitude of confidence and empowerment.So enough of my blabbering, let's check her

email out.

Dear Christian,

Well it's about time somebody coughed up the

secrets of the mind of man...LOL

I can't tell you what a pleasure, and with great

amusement, it was to read your ebook. I have been

trying to ferret out for years why I get into the

same situations with males I am attracted to and

attract. Let me tell you it has been no easy task

to make these kinds of discoveries.

I went from being entirely dismayed and at the

point of giving up, thinking I was too complex for

any male to understand, to the excited extreme

"Aha!" zone where now I get things that are

happening.

Being the dominant Aries woman with a perpetual

desire for the chase, I thought men to be lame and

overly freaked out by my presence and too

frightened to do anything about it... they watch

from afar but never approach. Begging internally

for a man who could keep up, I couldn't figure it

out and was on an endless path of what does that

mean, why did they do that, etc.

So this little goldmine of yours has put much

straight for me, and has my head spinning with

ideas.

I've come from the space of hating the whole

dating game place to understanding that it's not

foo-foo games but rather intelligent strategy

combined with proper pacing and non-attachment

empowered by my choices.

I recently started dating this man who after

several dates suggested I find a book on rules..

he was very tongue in cheek about it telling me I

was way too easy and I could be taken advantage of

(nice girl syndrome) - you should know I am 43

years old was married for 20 years and after 5

years of being divorced entirely clueless on how

to proceed. anyway... he at first mentioned he

liked having me on his priority list. But 5 days

later he brought up "the talk" because he was

wondering if he should have one basket or several.

(women) And 3 days after that he stated he was

into monogamy, but not with me in this case. This

blew me away entirely. But he still called each

day! He left me wondering what had taken place

with us that would make him suddenly stick me into

the lover category and not a long term one. (i.e.

verbatim he said, "We can have lots of great sex

and massages, you just don't get papers on me.")

I then did a search online and found your book. I

immediately put into play what I read - with

instant changes on his end I might add.

Now I see that what he's done and said has been to

help him stay emotionally protected, and that he

sees me just as a "lover" like you talked about.

Now the fun for me here is to implement these

things and see if it changes his perspective or

not. In the meantime, I'm open to practicing on

others I'm interested in until I get this right!

Thank you!!

D.B.

>>>My Comments:

You go girl!

I LOVE hearing success stories like this, and

thanks for the shameless ebook plug my strong

Aries sista'.

Now before I go into WHY I love this email, and

the great things to take away from it and use when

it comes to men, dating, and relationships, check

out my ebook here:OK, back to the matter at hand.

There are so many AWESOME things going on in

this email that I want to talk about, and that I

know are going to start happening for this woman

in the near future...

One of the most important things here is what I

think of as your "mindset".

I know it sounds a little silly and "new agey",

but the truth is that your attitude or mindset can

help you naturally become more successful with

experiencing connection, fulfillment, and building

something that's meaningful and lasting with a

man... WITHOUT having to do more "work" just to

get there.

If you haven't recognized it in the people and

the world around you yet, ATTITUDE is EVERYTHING.

This woman who wrote to me and the

transformation she's going through touches on this

idea and how it works...

But she didn't share a lot about how she got to

this new place she's in, what the process is like,

and what she's specifically doing differently now.

In other words, the "How-To's" and the

techniques.

That's where I want to fill in some gaps for

you right now...

The Fatal Mistake Of Handing Over The

Responsibility of Creating Your Perfect Love Life

To A Clueless Man...

I'm going to get "geeky" with you for a

second.

I've realized something important recently.

After spending tons of time thinking about how

men and women experience love and relationships

differently, and reading hundreds of books and

articles on how the human mind works and our

"inner-psychology", I've come across something

fascinating.

Each of us has a system of beliefs or "maps" of

the world that we use to organize our experience

and make meaning out of what happens around us.

I believe that lots of women have a unique set

of these beliefs that I call their "Emotional Love

Map".

It's really just a fancy name for the pictures

and expectations in your mind that create the

beliefs about how your love life and relationship

should look and FEEL.

Here's where it gets really interesting...

Men and their natural or default "emotional

states" can quickly make women feel frustrated and

hopeless about finding true and lasting love in

their life.

Why?

Because a lot of the behavior, communication

and beliefs that men have don't match up with the

"Emotional Love Map" of the woman they're with.

Seeing this has helped me see something I never

understood before as a man.

There's something I know tons of women are

probably dying to scream out from inside.

If I were them, I'd want to stand on the

tallest mountain and yell it out.

That's probably why I hear it from tons of

women I meet and talk to.

I heard it again just 4 nights ago when I was

out to dinner at a great restaurant here in Los

Angeles and I struck up a conversation with a

woman at the bar as I was waiting for my friend.

It goes something like this...

"I'm tired of doing all the work! Shouldn't the

man take responsibility for his issues and fix

them himself? We women are doing all the heavy

lifting since we're the ones who are emotionally

together."

Let's get the logical answer to this out of the

way so we can move on to things that actually

matter and will actually do real things to improve

your love life.

YES.

Men SHOULD take responsibility, learn and grow

like most women do.

But if you're reading this, then odds are that

the men in your life haven't, don't, and have no

immediate plans to get it together anytime soon.

Our strong Aries reader who wrote in really

"gets" this concept now and it's doing all kinds

of great things for her attitude, her feelings,

and the results she's getting with the unavailable

guy in her life.

But she probably wouldn't be open to learning

and trying new things she's learning and observing

if she hadn't had the "psychological shift" of

taking responsibility for her own love life.

In my "Natural & Lasting Attraction" program I

go in depth to share what you, as a woman, can do

so that you WON'T have to be the one doing all the

work anymore to keep the relationship ALIVE.

The relationship won't just die or fall apart

if you stop compensating for HIM. You won't have

all that "weight" that comes with being the only

one in a relationship who cares enough to think

about, analyze and learn how to get past the

common but dangerous "issues" in a REAL, HONEST,

LOVING RELATIONSHIP.Now let's switch gears for a second...

You know what would be great?

I should do a seminar for men to get them to

start taking responsibility for their part.

You and other women could send their

unavailable men and I'd "fix them up good"...lol.

Wouldn't that be great? But I think we both

know that this isn't going to happen.

And guess what that means?

It means that the responsibility to make your

love life special and amazing is still all YOURS.

You can't wait around for a man to figure out

the things that you already know and value. I

mean, you could really be waiting quite some time!

So where does that leave you?

The Power of "Awareness"... And How To Use It To

Create Great Situations With Men, Dating &

Relationships

I'm going to throw out a more "evolved" idea

and way of thinking that I believe is subtly

linked to everything in this woman's email and

attitude.

I see this idea as a kind of "master key" that

ANY WOMAN can use to unlock her own potential for

a happy and loving relationship with a man.

Not coincidentally, it's also the key to

unlocking a man's potential with you and getting

him to the right place for lasting love.

Let me tell you a quick story to explain the

idea exactly.

Tell me if this sounds at all familiar...

There once was a woman who was a great person

inside.

She was smart, thoughtful, caring, insightful,

passionate, loyal and loving.

More importantly, she saw the beauty and the

power of love in relationships and believed in its

ability to make the world a better place.

One day the woman met and became involved with

a man.

They had a strong connection from the very

start.

She felt the depth of the connection and knew

that the man felt the same thing inside.

It was REAL.

But then something happened...

In what seemed like the blink of an eye, the

man started to act differently.

And the next thing the woman knew, she was in,

what felt like, a dead-end situation where she

wasn't getting much of anything back from the man.

Then all of a sudden, she realized that she was

draining herself trying to make things work that

used to not be a problem.

And the man didn't seem to be helping... at

all.

The worst part was that the woman KNEW that it

was the man's problems that were consuming her and

killing what they had going.

But the kicker was that he wasn't even AWARE of

what his faults and issues were.

She tried to support him, share more of herself

and hoped that her loving and caring nature would

help it pass.

But it didn't.

So she decided to talk to him about what she

saw to try and improve things and get back to that

great loving and connected place they both

enjoyed.

It didn't go well.

He responded by becoming irritated and

defensive with her.

He acted like she was some high-maintenance

"pain" that was just nagging him.

And he completely dismissed what she said about

the things he was doing to push them apart.

Instead, he started telling her that he wasn't

really sure about where things were going... and

that it felt like things weren't like they used to

be and he wanted to maybe break up or see other

people.

--End Of Story--

If you're sitting there thinking, "oh my god,

how does Christian know about what happened with

the guy in my life"... then I feel for you.

And it's not a coincidence that this story

shares some similar elements with the reader's

email earlier.

Unfortunately, lots of men play the role of the

unavailable man in this story and the reader's

email. And possibly in your own life as well.

Some play it through a large portion of their

single lives.

The "story" is one of those universal

experiences that tons of women have when it comes

to men and dating.

I've made a thing of it to learn about this

common pattern of male behavior through years of

study and observation.

But more importantly, I think about this story

and have the ability to reflect on it and the

experience because of something way, way more

important.

Because I'm CONSCIOUS and AWARE.

Or at least aware enough to let me observe and

reflect on things like this.

The reality is that I've been there myself in

the past.

I've been the unaware guy who wasn't even open

to listening or caring when I was making mistakes

with a woman and acting selfishly.

But enough about me.

Let's finally get down to brass tacks here.

What can you learn from all of this and put to

good use in YOUR situation and love life?

Here's where that "evolved" idea comes into

play.

After years of experience, study and

observation, I've seen an amazing transformation

take place over and over for different women.

It's one of the most fundamental steps forward

a woman can take, that whether she sees it at

first or not, guides her to finding the right,

close, loving, committed and connected

relationship.

It helps lead her to that ONE GUY and that

right relationship, and makes everything else

transparent and virtually disappear so she doesn't

have to waste her precious time or invest her

heart and energy into it.

Here's what I'm getting at...

If you're in a difficult, painful, frustrating

situation with a man - the thing that has the

biggest potential for positive change and results

has NOTHING to do with getting him to change.

Yes, you heard that right.

It has absolutely nothing to do with his fears,

issues, his shortcomings, what he should do

differently, etc.

Not even his "mom issues". lol

Sorry... I just had to throw that in there.

No... the biggest "breakthroughs" you'll ever

have will come from somewhere completely

unexpected and counterintuitive.

The biggest breakthroughs you'll ever have in

your love life will come from within YOU.

That's right.

The most powerful breakthroughs I've seen that

have brought amazing positive change and growth to

a woman's love life are all about better

understanding your own psychology and behavior.

In other words, YOU are the greatest coach,

teacher, leader, mentor and guide that you'll ever

have.

I know it might sound trite.

It might even sound downright stupid and a

waste of your time and energy.

It's not.

The reality is that there are 10 million new

ideas and "techniques" out there for you to look

at, try and waste your time with.

NONE of those matter if they don't do something

about YOU and how you think and feel INSIDE.

The "inside" is what drives EVERYTHING else.

Your own mind, your own beliefs and your own

personal power and creativity are the most potent

forces you'll ever have at your disposal.

I've written an ebook for women about doing

exactly this...

To bring a new level of clarity and

understanding to their own love life and their

experiences with men.

My ebook addresses the critical areas "inside"

you of Psychology, Emotion, and Behavior... and

explains how these create a man's perception of

you and changes the way they see all of your

communication with them.

Wouldn't it be great if men responded the way

that you wanted them to when you asked them to

open up, share more, stay connected, or heaven

forbid... to want to be with you long term?

I address the idea of how to close the gap

between your own "Emotional Love Map" and what's

going on inside a man's mind in my ebook.

This chapter could jump-start your ability to

get that amazing connection going and get him

being affectionate, even if he's being Mr.

Unavailable right now.

The best part is, I've made it so that you can

try out the ebook for free for 7 days and decide

if you like it.