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do you long for the days your
man used to look at your lovingly?
Does it seem like the PASSION HAS GONE
out of your relationship, and you don't
quite understand why?
Your man says he loves you, and he says
he's committed to you, but you still feel
like something is missing.
And that your relationship may be headed
for trouble.
If so, take a look at this letter I wrote
about the reasons WHY so many women experience
this in their love life, and more importantly,
what YOU can do about your specific situation
right now:
If you have a man in your life right now, let
me ask you an honest question...
Are you happy with the current state of your
relationship?
Have you been experiencing the kind of love
and passion in your relationship that makes you
feel more confident and emotionally fulfilled?
Or...
Have the interactions with the man in your
life somehow turned "sour" to where even the
slightest look or misspoken word can drive a wedge
between you and lead to conflict?
If things are starting to "sour" in your
relationship, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND you read this
entire email.
And if you've become aware that it's not just
you who sees that the passion is missing, but
your man does too... then I'm going to have to
INSIST that you read this email and follow what's
in it. For your own good.
Now that we're clear on all that, let's get
down to it.
If your relationship is wearing you down and
making you feel weaker and less secure...
Instead of stronger and more beautiful, sexy
and confident...
Then I'd like to talk to you about what you can
do about it to quickly turn things around for the
better - for both you and for the man you're with.
Let me start by asking this question.
Take a minute, think about this question and
answer as honestly as you can.
Here goes...
What is it that takes a relationship with all
it's patterns and habits - and makes it suddenly
change for the better?
I'll give you a second to take that in
and consider what it is that has the power to
change a relationship between two people.
...
...
Ok, you probably came up with an idea or two
about how relationships can change.
But I'm willing to bet that nothing came to
mind that you know for sure is a quick and easy
way to change the things that are creating
distance and problems in your relationship.
Don't worry. That's where I'm going to help
you.
SYMPTOMS OF THE "PASSIONLESS RELATIONSHIP"
As a woman, there must be nothing worse than
doing everything you can think of to make things
work in your relationship...
Meanwhile all you're feeling inside is worn
down, unappreciated, and over-extended.
For lots of women who have men they live with
or are married to, the fact that you not only try
and carry your relationship isn't where it ends.
You're also doing everything to keep your life,
home, family, etc. together... while he doesn't
seem to be doing his part.
It's enough to drive you crazy.
The very last thing you can feel like doing
after a full day is giving MORE to your man to
help you reconnect.
How could it be that even though you're
trying harder to make for a great relationship
with the man in your life... that fun, free, easy
feeling of love and passion and connection seems
to drift farther and farther away from you?
For lots of women, what once started out as
an "easy" relationship where you and a man simply
connected - and enjoyed being together no matter
what - can unexpectedly turn into something a
lot more difficult and frustrating.
Tell me something...
Have you noticed that things with your man
fit with any of the following?
-He doesn't share the same kind of excitement
about being with you and spending quality time
together the way he used to
-He listens and responds to you less as time goes
on
-He has stopped touching you, acting sweet and
affectionate, and initiating sex
-He wants to spend more and more time "on his own"
Do any of these seem to be going on for you
with the man in your life?
If so, then I want you to stop fooling yourself
and get CLEAR about what's going on.
I hope you don't get mad at me for being the
one to tell you... but I'm going to for your own
good:
Your relationship is losing the PASSION that
brought it together in the first place.
And unless things change, it's likely that:
A) The ATTRACTION you share will DIE
The man you're with will likely STOP FEELING
those "special feelings" that brought you together
in the first place
And...
B) The cycle of less connection and less intimacy
leading to... more frustration... leading to less
connection and intimacy again... will continue to
spiral you and your relationship DOWNWARDS
And YOU will keep falling deeper and
deeper into that frustrated and unhappy place
inside yourself that you know isn't good for you
or your relationship because you don't feel
beautiful, loved, or sexy. And the more you feel
this way, the worse things are going to continue
to get.
If you can relate to what I'm talking about
here, then there's something you need to recognize
right now:
If you're spending a lot of time and energy on
keeping together or trying to improve the
relationship you're in, but it's ultimately only
digging you deeper into the frustrating situation
you're already in...
Then you first need to STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING
RIGHT NOW.
Then the answer is NOT for you to do more of
the same.
Reason being, you're almost guaranteed to end
up with the exact same RESULTS or OUTCOME.
I'm going to be unusually direct and honest
here:
Without the essential element of that
free-flowing PASSION that you both don't have to
WORK to feel, your relationship is in a lot more
danger of ENDING than you might realize.
Tell me...
How many times have you heard from a friend
that the man in her life suddenly told her that
he wanted to break up, and his only real reason
or excuse was that he "just didn't feel it
anymore"?
Or that he "loved her, but he wasn't IN LOVE
with her"?
Meanwhile, your friend felt like the
relationship was going strong, even though there
were those little bumps in the road that every
relationship has.
Sound familiar?
This kind of thing might have even happened
to you in the past.
The point here is that too many women end up
in relationships where their man is acting
disconnected and withdrawn, and there's little
PASSION being shared anymore.
And everything the woman tries in an effort
to make a change for the better only ends up
making her feel more frustrated and disappointed
because the man doesn't seem to notice or care.
Or worse, he actually becomes ANGRY or
IRRITATED every time you try and bring up the
subject of your relationship, the reality of
what's not working, and how it's making you feel.
If you've ever been in this kind of situation,
or you're in one right now... then the reality is
that you have A CHOICE TO MAKE:
You can either:
A) FREAK OUT as you see all the signs that your
man isn't "feeling it" for you the way he used
to, and as the passion keeps fading from your
relationship (and push things further down the
negative spiral)
B) Not really make a choice to do anything but
stay "quiet" and hope things change for the
better, as you go down the road of uncertainty
and your man keeps drifting farther and farther
from you
C) Take a step back from your knee-jerk reaction
of fear, and do something to quickly turn things
around right now
Most women don't know what it is that can take
this unfortunately-common situation and turn it
around.
There are 2 immediate options you have, both of
which I've seen work for women and allowed them
to quickly turn their relationships around in no
time flat.
Even with the most withdrawn or disengaged men.
(I'm talking healthy men here who have fallen into
these negative relationship patterns with you. Not
unhealthy, damaged men - that's a longer story.)
I've seen women turn their relationships around
with either of these things WITHOUT having to
"do more work" in their relationship and take
on more of the burden of carrying the
relationship.
Doing MORE is not the answer when you're
already doing all you can and it's not working.
The answer is doing just a few simple things
the right way.
The best part is, once you finally know what
the right thing to do is, all it takes is a tiny
bit of effort and the results are many, many more
times what you could get struggling with all your
force.
It's like lifting a giant piece of furniture.
Try it by hand and it won't budge.
But when you have the right pulleys and levers
it goes "like butter."
YOUR TWO OPTIONS TO QUICKLY CREATE A POSITIVE
"SHIFT" IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
I'm going to give you 2 options that I know
from my experience in helping women can quickly
allow you to do a kind of "reset" on your
relationship and shift out of some of the negative
dynamics that have been going on.
Using either of these options, I've literally
seen women:
-Go from feeling like they had to "nag" their
boyfriends at every turn just so he'd be a part
of their life and relationship... to suddenly
having him excited to give, share and open up
-Stop feeling like they were the only one GIVING
and start RECEIVING tons more love and affection
from their man
-Shift from having to ask 5 times before the trash
finally got taken out, to having their man asking
them what more he could do to help out and make
their lives great together
-Go from never hearing a kind word or unexpected
compliment, to receiving constant and continual
praise and appreciation for who they were
-Become consistently presented and surprised by
romantic gestures such as flowers, gifts, and
dates... all because their man was simply thinking
about them
Do any of these sound like something you'd like
to enjoy more of in your relationship?
And how would it be to have any or all of these
happen for you WITHOUT having to ASK FOR IT?
Then here are your 2 options:
Option #1) Reconnect The "Essential Element" That
Leads A Man To Feel & Act Passionately With You
Helen- for a fast shortcut to what I'm
talking about in this section, If you have a man in your life right now, let
me ask you an honest question...
Are you happy with the current state of your
relationship?
Have you been experiencing the kind of love
and passion in your relationship that makes you
feel more confident and emotionally fulfilled?
Or...
Have the interactions with the man in your
life somehow turned "sour" to where even the
slightest look or misspoken word can drive a wedge
between you and lead to conflict?
If things are starting to "sour" in your
relationship, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND you read this
entire email.
And if you've become aware that it's not just
you who sees that the passion is missing, but
your man does too... then I'm going to have to
INSIST that you read this email and follow what's
in it. For your own good.
Now that we're clear on all that, let's get
down to it.
If your relationship is wearing you down and
making you feel weaker and less secure...
Instead of stronger and more beautiful, sexy
and confident...
Then I'd like to talk to you about what you can
do about it to quickly turn things around for the
better - for both you and for the man you're with.
Let me start by asking this question.
Take a minute, think about this question and
answer as honestly as you can.
Here goes...
What is it that takes a relationship with all
it's patterns and habits - and makes it suddenly
change for the better?
I'll give you a second to take that in
and consider what it is that has the power to
change a relationship between two people.
...
...
Ok, you probably came up with an idea or two
about how relationships can change.
But I'm willing to bet that nothing came to
mind that you know for sure is a quick and easy
way to change the things that are creating
distance and problems in your relationship.
Don't worry. That's where I'm going to help
you.
SYMPTOMS OF THE "PASSIONLESS RELATIONSHIP"
As a woman, there must be nothing worse than
doing everything you can think of to make things
work in your relationship...
Meanwhile all you're feeling inside is worn
down, unappreciated, and over-extended.
For lots of women who have men they live with
or are married to, the fact that you not only try
and carry your relationship isn't where it ends.
You're also doing everything to keep your life,
home, family, etc. together... while he doesn't
seem to be doing his part.
It's enough to drive you crazy.
The very last thing you can feel like doing
after a full day is giving MORE to your man to
help you reconnect.
How could it be that even though you're
trying harder to make for a great relationship
with the man in your life... that fun, free, easy
feeling of love and passion and connection seems
to drift farther and farther away from you?
For lots of women, what once started out as
an "easy" relationship where you and a man simply
connected - and enjoyed being together no matter
what - can unexpectedly turn into something a
lot more difficult and frustrating.
Tell me something...
Have you noticed that things with your man
fit with any of the following?
-He doesn't share the same kind of excitement
about being with you and spending quality time
together the way he used to
-He listens and responds to you less as time goes
on
-He has stopped touching you, acting sweet and
affectionate, and initiating sex
-He wants to spend more and more time "on his own"
Do any of these seem to be going on for you
with the man in your life?
If so, then I want you to stop fooling yourself
and get CLEAR about what's going on.
I hope you don't get mad at me for being the
one to tell you... but I'm going to for your own
good:
Your relationship is losing the PASSION that
brought it together in the first place.
And unless things change, it's likely that:
A) The ATTRACTION you share will DIE
The man you're with will likely STOP FEELING
those "special feelings" that brought you together
in the first place
And...
B) The cycle of less connection and less intimacy
leading to... more frustration... leading to less
connection and intimacy again... will continue to
spiral you and your relationship DOWNWARDS
And YOU will keep falling deeper and
deeper into that frustrated and unhappy place
inside yourself that you know isn't good for you
or your relationship because you don't feel
beautiful, loved, or sexy. And the more you feel
this way, the worse things are going to continue
to get.
If you can relate to what I'm talking about
here, then there's something you need to recognize
right now:
If you're spending a lot of time and energy on
keeping together or trying to improve the
relationship you're in, but it's ultimately only
digging you deeper into the frustrating situation
you're already in...
Then you first need to STOP WHAT YOU'RE DOING
RIGHT NOW.
Then the answer is NOT for you to do more of
the same.
Reason being, you're almost guaranteed to end
up with the exact same RESULTS or OUTCOME.
I'm going to be unusually direct and honest
here:
Without the essential element of that
free-flowing PASSION that you both don't have to
WORK to feel, your relationship is in a lot more
danger of ENDING than you might realize.
Tell me...
How many times have you heard from a friend
that the man in her life suddenly told her that
he wanted to break up, and his only real reason
or excuse was that he "just didn't feel it
anymore"?
Or that he "loved her, but he wasn't IN LOVE
with her"?
Meanwhile, your friend felt like the
relationship was going strong, even though there
were those little bumps in the road that every
relationship has.
Sound familiar?
This kind of thing might have even happened
to you in the past.
The point here is that too many women end up
in relationships where their man is acting
disconnected and withdrawn, and there's little
PASSION being shared anymore.
And everything the woman tries in an effort
to make a change for the better only ends up
making her feel more frustrated and disappointed
because the man doesn't seem to notice or care.
Or worse, he actually becomes ANGRY or
IRRITATED every time you try and bring up the
subject of your relationship, the reality of
what's not working, and how it's making you feel.
If you've ever been in this kind of situation,
or you're in one right now... then the reality is
that you have A CHOICE TO MAKE:
You can either:
A) FREAK OUT as you see all the signs that your
man isn't "feeling it" for you the way he used
to, and as the passion keeps fading from your
relationship (and push things further down the
negative spiral)
B) Not really make a choice to do anything but
stay "quiet" and hope things change for the
better, as you go down the road of uncertainty
and your man keeps drifting farther and farther
from you
C) Take a step back from your knee-jerk reaction
of fear, and do something to quickly turn things
around right now
Most women don't know what it is that can take
this unfortunately-common situation and turn it
around.
There are 2 immediate options you have, both of
which I've seen work for women and allowed them
to quickly turn their relationships around in no
time flat.
Even with the most withdrawn or disengaged men.
(I'm talking healthy men here who have fallen into
these negative relationship patterns with you. Not
unhealthy, damaged men - that's a longer story.)
I've seen women turn their relationships around
with either of these things WITHOUT having to
"do more work" in their relationship and take
on more of the burden of carrying the
relationship.
Doing MORE is not the answer when you're
already doing all you can and it's not working.
The answer is doing just a few simple things
the right way.
The best part is, once you finally know what
the right thing to do is, all it takes is a tiny
bit of effort and the results are many, many more
times what you could get struggling with all your
force.
It's like lifting a giant piece of furniture.
Try it by hand and it won't budge.
But when you have the right pulleys and levers
it goes "like butter."
YOUR TWO OPTIONS TO QUICKLY CREATE A POSITIVE
"SHIFT" IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP
I'm going to give you 2 options that I know
from my experience in helping women can quickly
allow you to do a kind of "reset" on your
relationship and shift out of some of the negative
dynamics that have been going on.
Using either of these options, I've literally
seen women:
-Go from feeling like they had to "nag" their
boyfriends at every turn just so he'd be a part
of their life and relationship... to suddenly
having him excited to give, share and open up
-Stop feeling like they were the only one GIVING
and start RECEIVING tons more love and affection
from their man
-Shift from having to ask 5 times before the trash
finally got taken out, to having their man asking
them what more he could do to help out and make
their lives great together
-Go from never hearing a kind word or unexpected
compliment, to receiving constant and continual
praise and appreciation for who they were
-Become consistently presented and surprised by
romantic gestures such as flowers, gifts, and
dates... all because their man was simply thinking
about them
Do any of these sound like something you'd like
to enjoy more of in your relationship?
And how would it be to have any or all of these
happen for you WITHOUT having to ASK FOR IT?
Then here are your 2 options:
Option #1) Reconnect The "Essential Element" That
Leads A Man To Feel & Act Passionately With You
Helen- for a fast shortcut to what I'm
talking about in this section, read this
Of course, if you want to get right to
discovering the 6 Keys To Lasting Attraction that
I share in my "Natural & Lasting Attraction"
program... and to putting all the very best
secrets I've learned to work, both from seeing
what works that other women do in their
relationships - and from knowing what men love
and RESPOND TO -
Then I'll make you a deal.
If you go here right now and let me know that
you'd like to check out everything that's inside
my "Natural & Lasting Attraction" program, I'll
do something special for you.
I'll ship it to you at my upfront expense and
let you try it out for a full 30 days before you
have to decide if you want to keep and pay for it.
If you don't open it up and listen and
discover TONS of priceless information that is
sure to change your love life, your relationship,
and the way the man in your life looks at you
FOREVER... then simply send it back to me and you
won't have to pay a single dime.
It's really that simple.
And what would it be worth to you if you did
find that one simple and easy way of relating
to your man that took ZERO WORK but gave you the
exact kind of experience you wanted with him?
Stop trying to push and pull your way to a
great relationship... when trying harder isn't
what is going to work.
It's supposed to be THE JOURNEY that you enjoy,
not the DESTINATION of a more secure and loving
relationship that might seem a bit far out of
reach right now.
Once you're sharing the kind of deep CONNECTION
and ATTRACTION that only comes from knowing what
makes a man feel this way with you and only you...
it all becomes easy.
Enjoy the ride and discover the secrets to men
and attraction today. Don't wait.
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Of course, I told you I'd also share with you
the second option if you're looking for the right
way to quickly get things on track with a man and
draw him close to you for a great relationship.
Option #2) Break Through Your "Stalled"
Relationship And Discover How Commitment And
Growth Works FOR HIM
Lots of women have an easy time meeting a man
and starting off a new relationship.
But then things always seem to fizzle after
that early phase of lust and passion is over.
One of the scariest truths that too many women
shy away from is that for most men, especially
successful and attractive men with lots of
options, they don't want to be in a relationship
just for the sake of being in one.
In other words, lots of men who are "catches"
won't just want a loving, lasting and COMMITTED
relationship just because it could make their
life better.
In fact, lots of these men have never met a
woman who has shown them that a relationship
truly does make life richer and more worth living.
Lots of good men still haven't been able to
recognize in a woman the qualities that show them
that their life could actually be BETTER as a
result of being deeply in love and COMMITTED for
the LONG RUN.
Don't let what men either haven't found or
seen in other women deter you from having the
great relationship you know is possible when you
meet a man.
Discovering how men think about lasting and
long-term relationships is half the secret.
If you don't know what it is that makes a man
see a woman as someone who he could see himself
being with and staying with not just FOR NOW, but
far into the future... then odds are you'll make
the same mistake tons of other women make that
only make the man in their life MORE RESISTANT
to committing to lasting love.
One of the most common mistakes is talking to
a man about becoming more involved and committed
in your relationship as though it's the "right"
or "logical" thing to do.
Some women, when they sense that their
relationship isn't growing... will try and jump-
start things by DEMANDING that the man "get with
the program" and make a bigger commitment.
I can see the man WITHDRAWING right now.
The false belief women hold about why men
withdraw when this happens is that men are AFRAID
of COMMITMENT.
Nothing could be farther from the truth.
The truth is, men aren't afraid of commitment
when they feel like a woman UNDERSTANDS THEM and
knows how to be the kind of partner who makes
their life BETTER, not more confusing and complex.
In other words, men are only afraid of
commitment when they don't already sense that the
woman is right for them.
So when a woman can come into a man's life and
show him the signs of a great woman that all men
know and universally respond to... that supposed
fear of commitment and the future simply
disappears.
I'm sure you've known at least one man in your
life who was a sworn bachelor.
He'd talk about how he loved being single,
and about how relationships were nothing but
trouble.
But then it happened...
He met this one woman and suddenly EVERYTHING
CHANGED.
Suddenly love was real and important.
Suddenly he had a woman he truly cared about,
and who he didn't want to lose or let go.
Suddenly he was "hooked", and it was him who
was driving the relationship forward and wanting
more.
It is possible. Men can and do grow deeply
connected and committed in relationships.
But it takes getting them to recognize that
you're the right woman.
To know how the COMMITMENT PROCESS works for
a man, how to avoid all the common mistakes women
make that cause healthy men to fear and avoid a
lasting relationship... and to grow your
relationship without all the uncertainty and
withdrawal, I STRONGLY RECOMMEND you check out
the incredible program I put together on how a
man grows deeply committed to a woman for good.
Thursday, May 20, 2010
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